In a world full of aesthetically pleasing photos, continuous updates, and the need to feel connected, it’s rather easy to compare your life to someone else’s. Some of the most subtle things can trigger us to reflect on our lives and the places where we feel we fall short. 

Sometimes it hurts when you look at others and they have all that you’ve ever wanted and set yourself out to achieve — a college degree or two, a job promotion, trips across the world, progress in fitness, gifts and talents being showcased, a healthy relationship, a family, a supportive community etc.

The hurt doesn’t necessarily stem from anything this person has done to me but it comes from the lies that I start to believe about myself. 

I find myself asking “God, when will I get there? When will I get it together? When will I be successful? I want that too. What am I doing wrong? Why is it so hard and why is it that everyone else seems to have it together?” 

Our Father never intended for us to be divided or in competition with one another. He also doesn’t want us to get ahead of His timing over our lives. So how do you overcome the temptation to compare?

Trust That What God Has for You is For You

In our uncertainties about the future, it’s easy to look at someone else’s milestones and wonder if God has forgotten about you. It’s in this state of mind that I fail to hold onto the word of God and I become inattentive to what he is orchestrating in this current season of life. But He is always speaking and His word stands true. Reminding ourselves of His promises shifts the attention from our insecurities to our God who has already secured our future. 

King David proclaims in Psalm 139: 1-5 (TPT):

“Lord, you know everything there is to know about me. You perceive every movement of my heart and soul, and you understand my every thought before it even enters my mind. You are so intimately aware of me, Lord. You read my heart like an open book and you know all the words I’m about to speak before I even start a sentence. You know every step I will take before my journey begins. You’ve gone into my future to prepare the way, and in kindness you follow behind me to spare me from the harm of my past. With your hand of love upon my life, you impart a blessing to me.”

Much like David, God hasn’t forgotten about you. He loves you. He knows you and your innermost thoughts — your worries, your passions, your desires, and the things you want to pursue. He also knows what He’s going to do as He has already gone before you to prepare the way. In this moment now, your story is still unfolding. The story is being written just for you so that you can witness and testify to the glory of God.

When we view our lives through the lens of the Lord, we can let go of the milestones and expectations that we set for ourselves.

We can overcome the temptation to compare our life to someone else’s because God knows the plans that He has for you and He knows the plans he has for them. You can trust that what is meant for you won’t pass you by. 

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There’s Space for You

Every so often I can’t help but feel insignificant when I see people who have an admirable amount of achievements under their name and thriving in the same things that I want to pursue. I feel as though there isn’t space for me and that my voice and my experiences don’t matter.

But that’s exactly what the enemy wants us to believe: there’s someone else who is more qualified, more assertive, more talented, so why should you even try?

This tactic is used not only to divide us but to also stop us from operating in our calling. 

What God has planned for you, He will prepare you for it. When God calls you to something, there is always space for you. 

In John 15:16 (NLT) Jesus says to the disciples, “You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name.”

Ephesians 2:10 (KJV) says, “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”

God chose you and he also chose the person that you may find yourself comparing your life to. He appoints us to go and produce lasting fruit. 

 Our stories were never meant to mirror one another.