Living With A Distorted View of God’s Heart Towards Us

In the last post, we discovered Jesus’ radical revelation of who God is – God is our Father! However, the challenge we face as sons and daughters of God is that we often have a distorted view of the heart of our Father.

Our view of God does not always flow purely from the revelation of Jesus and the Scriptures. Often, our view of our heavenly Father becomes contaminated from:

  1. The pains and woundings of life
  2. An unhealthy relationship with our earthly father (and mother)
  3. Disappointment with God
  4. Unfulfilled expectations of God
  5. Believing the lies of Satan

As a result, we struggle with false perceptions of God and his heart toward us. We wrongly perceive and believe that:

  • God is angry with me.
  • God is probably frustrated with me.
  • God is so disappointed in me.
  • God doesn’t care about me.
  • God doesn’t like me very much.

Putting Off and Putting On

Do you ever believe that these descriptions are how God thinks about you? Do you struggle with the thoughts that these statements are God’s heart towards you? Do you believe any of them now?

We must put off the lies of who God is and all false views of God’s heart towards us. Instead, we must put on the truth of who God is (that he is our Father) and what his heart is towards His children.

The Core of God’s Heart

So, what is the heart of our Father towards us? What is the heart of our Daddy? No single word can capture the infinite heart that God has for us. Yet, perhaps the word that best captures the Father’s heart to His children is “love.”

The Scriptures sets forth this revelation in a tremendous yet straightforward truth that “God is love” (1 John 4:8b, ESV). God does not merely love; he is love. Love is not just a description of an attribute of God. Love is the essence of God.

As new covenant believers, we affirm the truth of 1 John 4:8 by stating that God is love. However, the Jewish people under the old covenant would say God is “hesed.”

“For the Lord is good; his steadfast love [hesed] endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.” (Psalm 100:5)

Hesed is the Hebrew word that the Bible most often translates as “lovingkindness.” Hesed is a vibrant and descriptive Hebrew word that communicates two specific qualities of God’s love and kindness to His people.

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1. The Father’s love for you is steadfast.
Something steadfast is firmly fixed in place. It is not subject to change. What this means is that God’s love for you is unwavering. It does not fluctuate. It does not go up and down.

In Christ, there is absolutely nothing we can do that would make the Father love us anymore, and nothing we have done makes the Father love us any less. What an incredible revelation of the Father’s heart! His steadfast love for you never changes! On a scale of 1 to 10, God’s love for you is not at a level 9.5 at one moment then later in the day at level 5. His love for you is always a 10!

2. The Father’s love for you is everlasting.
Psalms 136 is unique because within its 26 verses the phrase “for his steadfast love endures forever” is repeated 26 times. God’s love for you not only remains the same, but God’s love for you also endures forever.

That means there is no end to the Father’s love for you. You will never come to a place in your life where you will exceed God’s love for you. His love for you never fails and it never ceases. It is limitless. What an incredible revelation of the Father’s heart of God! His constant, unchanging, unwavering love for you is everlasting.

3. God’s radical love for you is demonstrated in the cross of Jesus.
Paul testifies to God’s massive love for you in Romans 5:8, “But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

God’s love for us might be seen in certain circumstances. However, the Bible does not say that God demonstrates his love for us today by giving us great days and constant wonderful blessings. In fact, Jesus himself said that in this world we would have “tribulations” (John 16:33) and not to worry about tomorrow because today has “its own trouble” (Matthew 6:34). If you are seeking to see the revelation of the Father’s heart of love towards you based upon your daily circumstances or even in physical blessings, then you are going to miss it greatly.

Romans 5:8 tells us that the primary evidence of God’s love for us today is being displayed to us through the truth that Christ died for us even while we were sinners.

How do I know that Jesus loves me today? Through the cross of Christ. How will I know that God loves me tomorrow? Through the cross of Jesus.

4. Nothing will ever separate you from the Father’s love.
In addition to the Father’s love never changing or ending for you, another incredible revelation about the Father’s heart is that nothing will ever separate us from His amazing love. Paul declares a beautiful reality in Romans 8:35, 38–39: “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

We must become convinced that nothing – not even ourselves – can tear us away from Abba’s love for us in Jesus. Nothing!

The core of God’s heart towards you is a relentless, never-changing, loyal, fierce love that you can never ever be separated from!

God not only absolutely loves you, but he is also crazy about you!

Craig Conaway is a trainer, coach, spiritual director, and writer. His passion is to help equip people to be courageous followers of Jesus who impact their spheres of influence for the glory of God. Craig has over 20 years of pastoral experience including directing an in-depth discipleship training school. He recently completed his book, Identity: Being Who God Says You AreCraig resides in Norman, OK with his wife and three kids, and is pursuing his Master’s of Leadership.